When I was 17, my father told me something I didn't understand.
Not until I'd dated enough women to see the pattern with my own eyes.
"Son you'll pay for what other men did to her"
I didn't get it then.
I get it now.
He wasn't talking about money.
He meant emotional debt.
You'll pay for her father's absence.
You'll pay for her ex's betrayal
You'll pay for every night she cried herself numb and whispered never again.
You'll walk into a battlefield thinking you're walking into love.
Say something simple and she'll get defensive and can't find a solution.
Here's the part most men refuse to swallow.
You can't fix her.
You can only fund the healing she never did.
You'll love harder, You'll stay loyal, You'll do everything right.
But her pain doesn't reward effort. It punishes proximity.
Women don't heal through reflection, they heal through defense.
Every layer of armor kills the softness she once had.
That's why the girl who loved blindly at 19 turns cold at 25 and emotionally dead by 30
Experience didn't gift her wisdom, it trained her in self-preservation.
Modern men aren't dating women, They're dating damage.
You do everything right and it's still not good enough.
You ask for help and it's a war.
You're not fighting her logic.
You're fighting her scars.
You can't teach peace to someone raised on chaos.
Good men drown trying to save women destroyed by worse men.
You're not her savior, you're her next casualty.